WHO PAYS ON A FIRST DATE?

Women vs men

This is definetly an ongoing debate and I don’t think either sex will ever really win no matter how justifiable their argument is.

“who pays on a date” 

Many say the person who suggested the date is responsible for paying and 9/10 times the man will be the one to initiate the date so therefore you should take care of that female and make her feel like the two of you are more than friends. Don’t get me wrong there are different types of date some dates are very formal which means you go out for a meal maybe there were reservations and then there are more casual dates like happy hour drinks and in that instance the woman may chip in or even buy a round of drinks.

Many dating blogs and social media sites have gone back and forth with this topic the men always have one view and the women always have another, the men say they are going to pay for the date but they should not be expected to pay for the date which for me makes no sense.

Lately so many men seem to be complaining about “finesse chicks” but you need to understand that you are the ones who created the “finesse chicks” you allowed women to use you for what you have because you choose to show off and flaunt your material possessions in order to get female attention whether it’s your car or your high income or your designer garments you are flashing these things in the hope to attract the opposite sex. You know that the type of female who is looking at you for those things is not interested in getting to know the real you, so you cannot get upset when a girl expects a certain type of treatment from you when you act as though you can afford to give her what she wants. If you choose to meet a woman and invite her somewhere that doesnt fit into your budget thats on you, dont complain about being used or being finessed! If you are going on several dates then you need to be more creative with where you take them. Every date does not have to be lavish there are many women who will appreciate your effort and time and are interested in getting to know the real you rather than just going to an expensive restaurant!!

Finesse chicks

Lately so many men seem to be complaining about “finesse chicks” but you need to understand that you are the ones who created the “finesse chicks” you allowed women to use you for what you have because you choose to show off and flaunt your material possessions in order to get female attention whether it’s your car or your high income or your designer garments you are flashing these things in the hope to attract the opposite sex. You know that the type of female who is looking at you for those things is not interested in getting to know the real you, so you cannot get upset when a girl expects a certain type of treatment from you when you act as though you can afford to give her what she wants. If you choose to meet a woman and invite her somewhere that doesnt fit into your budget thats on you, dont complain about being used or being finessed! If you are going on several dates then you need to be more creative with where you take them. Every date does not have to be lavish there are many women who will appreciate your effort and time and are interested in getting to know the real you rather than just going to an expensive restaurant!!

Exspectations

Everyone goes on  a first date with different expectations, often we are both just hoping its not an awkward experience. We hope to leave the date wanting to see each other again although there are some men who simply go on dates in the hopes to have sex and never see the woman again and I feel this is the reason so many woman wait a while before they get physical. Some men are under the impression that if they spend enough money and take you to a nice place then you are obligated to have sex at the end of the night I think I speak for most women when I say “THIS IS NOT THE CASE”!

Independence

Men like to argue that women claim to be independent but still rely on them for free food. Paying for a date does not determine a woman’s level of independence and all women do not attend dates purely for a free meal. Yes there are women who only go on dates when they are bored or hungry but as a man you should know the kind of woman that you’re speaking to if she seems like she will finesse you out of a meal then maybe you should re-evaluate the type of woman you choose to approach.

Regular girls

I feel like men now adays are chasing a certain type of woman and you need to humble yourself and look at the more regular girls the ones who go to work and look after themselves, the ones who know how to cook and clean instead of chasing the girls who just dress to impress and have nothing to offer apart from looks. Most of the time this type of female is more interested in your connects and what you can do for her social status. 

Date ettiquite

There is definetly a way to carry yourself on a date especially a first date. Firstly wear something you feel comfortable in but also that makes you look and feel sexy, give him something to look at but dont give him a stroke so keep it classy of course.  Be punctual if your being picked up be ready on time and if your meeting at the venue leave your house in good time. Be positive and work on keeping the conversation flowing and not just all about you,you,you ask questions about him and his interests and remember to listen. Do not order too much alcohol dont get drunk you need to be focused and you dont want your date to think your a loose canon, I think the same applies to food dont go over board get something you think you will like and always somthing you can pronounce there is nothing more embarrassing than going to a bouji restaurant and trying to say the name of something in a foriegn language and looking stupid!

 

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